Children warned to: “Look out for … “ will walk directly into the object they have been warned away from. Their focus has been drawn to what they are supposed to avoid, not to where they wanted to be. Vision guides locomotion.
Even as adults, other people’s anxiety drives us to change direction. We may know perfectly well where we are going, but are easily diverted when we believe other people know us better than we know ourselves. We allow other people to place their doubt into our minds. We look at the distractions they identify and move towards them.
But only we stand where we stand. Only we see what we see. Only we know where we are going. If we want to get there, we must look where we are going, not at .